I posted this graphic to IG yesterday (@christiansingleladies), because I loved the statement. God takes us on some incredible adventures--sometimes rather unwillingly. We get so caught up in where we want to be that we forget to look at the journey itself. We live in an instant society now. Think about it...
There is nothing we can't find, obtain, or access in seconds, and it's creating a problem with Patience and Appreciation. Not all things come easy or instantly. I think about this a lot, because I struggle with both in my ever-so-long season of singleness. I watched most of my friends and family find their partners and get married long ago. I see my single friends in relationships, and here I am still chronically single. No boyfriend, no husband. And I'm in my 40s. Patience and Appreciation sometimes have to fight for a place in my heart.
God has whispered "Patience" in my ear more times than I can count, and I've fought him over and over. Sometimes I sound like the spoiled children in Willy Wonka, where I whine, "I want it NOW!" It's shameful for me to admit, but I"m far from perfect, as God knows. However, when my head clears and my heart gets over its petulant fit, I remember that all things come in God's timing.
First, I know that if I was supposed to be single forever, God would not have laid a desire to be matched on my heart. So I find hope that God will eventually bring me my partner. Second, I do think He is taking me on a journey to end up where I need to be so that I can appreciate this season of singleness and my eventual partner in a way that honors God.
When I see the place I am right now through His lens, I know that I have come so far in my life. I don't know if I would appreciate my partner in the same way if God had just plopped him in my lap years ago. Would I have been a bad wife or girlfriend? I don't know. I do know that I may not have done all the things I've experienced over the years had I been in a relationship. I look back on my journey, and I'm not sure I would have changed it, which makes me sad that I haven't always appreciated it.
So take a moment today to pray about the journey God has you on right now. Instead of focusing on the lack of dating relationship or marriage in your life, maybe focus on where God has you right now. Take time to build your relationship with God and see where He wants to take you. Pray about the journey, not the destination. It's amazing how God can use the adventure to bring Patience and Appreciation back into our hearts.
Once upon a time I was a naive young woman who thought I'd find my Prince Charming right after college and I'd go on to balance a career and children. Well, now I'm 46 (yeah, I admitted my age), not married, supporting an older parent, have zero desire to have babies, and going from failed relationship to failed relationship. Sounds pretty miserable, right?
The thing is, I can't say it's fully miserable, because it's not. I'm not depressed. I get sad sometimes, I'm not going to lie. However, I'm not going to say that I'm always depressed about it. Sometimes I love the freedom in my life to not have to justify my actions or explain my behavior to a partner. Sometimes I like my alone time and my ability to make my choices without having to consult with anyone.
God has me where I am for a reason. Maybe being able to put together something that inspires the modern single woman is that reason. Maybe I'm like Gloria Steinem (okay, I'm not. She's wayyyy out of my league, but bear with me), where I won't find the love of my life until I'm 50. I don't have the answer. I do know there is a desire for me to meet that life partner. God hasn't erased it from my heart.
So what do we do? Do we sit at home and wait? No way! Let's get out an enjoy life as a single person, because when that partner comes along, then we can enjoy life as a couple. God has plans for us whether we're single or not. Let's focus on the plans He has for us now.
Me? I'm going to church, joining small groups, eating out, happy hour-ing with friends. I do paint and sip classes, snuggle with my dog, watch chick-flick movies, read fun romance novels, cheer for my Bears, yell at CNN and more. Do I keep myself busy to distract from being single? No. I keep myself busy to enjoy the life God gave me.
Tell me, what are the things you love to do as a smart, vibrant single Christian woman?
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